The 3C's:conditioning, conformity, convention

An interesting debate... is it the desire to conform that makes us human or is conformity necessary for us to survive as humans? A weighty premise, far more worthy than our earlier one involving Miss Marple as a dominatrix! And a graphic image such as this will undoubtedly translate into a most unpleasant insomnia. Honestly - a diminutive white haired, pink cheeked 70 year old with knitting needles in 6 inch laced up knee highs, leather bustier and studs is just wrong!! Almost as wrong as the realisation by 3 women unaccompanied by any sub-adults, that the horses on the merry go round at Christmas wonderland in Hyde Park, have the most disconcerting up and down motion combined with some serious vibrating that make straddling it highly inappropriate for anything but adult entertainment! (which makes you ponder the age old question - how worried should I be about the company I keep??).
I digress. A debate oddly brought on by the evocative combination of Javier Bardem, Penelope Cruz and company, which Taks and I had to abandon, thanks to London transports ruthless efficiency late on a Sunday night. Just as an aside, Bardem is every woman's wet dream in a most ridiculously seductive manner, while Penelope is every woman's wetter dream - sensually neurotic and utterly magnificent! She is just......oh my! The usual tittering aside, it does raise some interesting questions about us as a society and what is 'appropriate' or 'acceptable', and how inadequate is usually is. The rules aren't really as important as the roles everyone plays, and that's really the whole point. Take away the conventional roles and it upsets everyone. Why? Are we so conditioned that it's just too difficult to contemplate life without a structure that's clearly recognised and accepted by everyone? Why is it so difficult to acknowledge without any subterfuge that the convention of a 'couple' or a 'family' can never be adequate? For periods of time, absolutely wonderful, but forever? How can it? Yet the institution rolls on implacably. Anyway, we never got past the conditioning bit... let's see how this one pans out.